Ever achieved a goal, then hit a bit of a slump? Suddenly felt unmotivated? Well that was me after the Triathlon. I’d achieved my goal and though I was happy I did it, I quickly felt a bit disconnected.
So I need to set a new goal then?
Training, preparing, worrying and boring everyone about the traithlon took up such a big part of my life that I felt a bit lost without it. It wasn’t anything I could pin down but I definitely felt a bit…..meh. So what to do? The obvious thing was set myself a new goal, but what?
I could do another triathlon and aim to go faster? I could try a longer distance triathlon, or maybe I could sign up for a marathon? The problem with that is that they all feel like a bit of a dead end. After all, I won’t just keep getting faster and faster for the rest of my life, and once I’ve worked up to doing an Ironman what do I do after that? (Though to be fair, looking at what an Ironman involves I could have that as a goal for ever more and never achieve it!)
That’s not to say I won’t do another triathlon, I’m just not going to make it a big goal. I needed a goal that was something different, something new to keep me interested, maybe even something that scares me a bit. And that’s where I got a bit stuck.
I couldn’t come up with anything that felt like a proper goal. I was tempted to just say I’d do a marathon, mainly so I had something to tell people, but it’s not something I’m passionate about. I don’t even really want to do one that much, so what’s the point? Even a blind optimist like me knows that’s got ‘failure’ written all over it.
What’s my “Big Why”?
Then I was moaning to David about how I was struggling to come up with some new goals and he said ‘what’s your big why? ‘
Eh? My big Why? That’s obvious isn’t? I want to lose weight and get fit!
‘Yes’ he replied ‘But why do you want to lose weight and get fit?’
And that really stumped me. I had loads of little reasons; I want to wear nice clothes, I want to walk up a flight of stairs without getting out of breath, I don’t want a seat belt extender when I go on a plane, but none of them felt like my Big Why. Then I started thinking about how being overweight made me feel. and what had triggered me feeling like that. Once I’d got a few things on the list it was immediately obvious that I did know what my Big Why was after all.
When Fitness Goals become Life Goals
I want to stop missing out. I’ve lost count of the times I’ve turned down invitations, said no to things and made excuses all because I was too scared I wouldn’t be able to do it or I’d look stupid. Once I realised that I had no problem with coming up with goals, they just needed to relate to things I want to do in “real life”.
So in no particular order, here’s my new goals – some should be pretty quick to achieve, others will take longer and I’ll probably have to add in extra “mini goals” along the way but that’s ok
Goal 1; Master a proper push up
And then a chin up and a pull up
Why? Partly so I can wear sleeveless tops and look hot but mainly so I can do a parachute jump – apparently you need quite a lot of upper body strength for that!
Goal 2; Drop another dress size by the end of October
Why? We’ve booked a table at a very expensive Michelin star restaurant to celebrate my birthday at the end of October, I’ve bought myself a very nice dress to wear in a size smaller than I currently am…
Goal 3; Work on building my cardio strength and endurance on the bike
·Why? I’ve always wanted to do the coast to coast bike ride. I’m aiming for next summer. I also really want to watch sunrise from the top of the Haleakala Volcano in Maui and then ride back down again. We went to Maui on our honeymoon and I didn’t take the opportunity to do it then. I’m determined we’ll go back for our 10th Anniversary and I’ll do it this time
So that lot should keep me busy for a while! What goals have you set yourself? And what is your big why for wanting to lose weight or get fitter?
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